Gay Marriage

Gay Marriage Quiz   by Gene Lalor

“Okay, get your thinking hats on, class, please, because we have a little quiz today and let’s have no cheating, borrowing answers, or conferencing. It’s an easy quiz, just one question, and those of you who have kept up on current affairs-and not the affairs in Hollywood or on Desparate Housewives-should do just fine if you’ve been paying attention to the world around you.”

Sounds of discontent begin.

“Ok, here we go. You will have more than enough time to pose queries and then 10 seconds from the time I finish asking the question and the end of the Q&A to write your answer. And stop the complaining that 10 seconds isn’t enough time. The quiz requires only a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ response.

“The one question is, and wait until I finish asking it before you interrupt, please: Has any state in the United States of America ever approved by a constitutional, popular vote the legalization of marriages of people of the same gender? Yes or no?”

Suzie at once raises her hand and blurts out, “You never said we had to know this for a test!”

“Well, no, Suzie, but this isn’t a test, it’s just a quiz.”

“Yeah, but still, it’s no fair,” Suzie adds as she folds her arms in indignation and murmurs of agreement filter through the room.

“What do you mean by, ‘constitutional, popular vote,’ anyways?” Johnny blurts out. “What’s so popular about voting?”

“No, Johnny, ‘popular’ there refers to ‘reflecting the will of the people,’ not ‘popularity’ as with rock stars, for example.”

Johnny harrumphs.

“Any other questions?”

“Yeah, Teach, ah got a question,” Lionel chimes in. “What about this constitution thing, huh? I mean, what’s dat got to do with it? Who cares what some old White dudes wrote down thousands of years ago?”

Encouraged by a smattering of tepid applause, Lionel goes on. “I mean, if some sistah and some other sistah or some brutha and some other brutha wanna make hookin’ up all legal and whatevah, why not let them be happy? Ya know what ah mean?”

Lionel returns to his seat to another smattering.

“Umm, Lionel, I know what you mean, I think, but first of all, it was hundreds, not thousands, of years ago, 1787, to be precise, and…”

“Wait, what’s all this have to do with the quiz?” Dwight asks.

“Good point, Dwight, and if there are no other questions, the 10 second answering time begins now.”

“Wait, wait, hold up, please! How much will this count toward our final average?” Suzie blurts out.

In the event it wasn’t obvious, that dialogue never actually happened verbatim although in one way or another it may well be the topic of discussion in many a classroom over the next week or so given the most recent trashing of America’s Constitution by the Iowa Supreme Court: http://www.breitbart.com/article.php?id=D97B1TH80&show_article=1.

Once again, a judicial entity has superseded the authority and the right of the American people to determine who is legally entitled to marry whom in an ostensible democratic republic.

This issue of homosexual marriage seems to have a life of its own. Voted down by popular vote in California last November when Left Coasters resoundingly, and surprisingly, endorsed this simple 14 word amendment to its constitution, “Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California,” one would have thought the case was closed.

Not by a long shot.

Even though the vote was 52.3% to 47.7% against the gay agenda, in one of the most liberal states in the nation, that expression of the majority will of the people only ignited homosexual activists who then resorted to heated demonstrations, rioting, threats of violence, and even death threats to get their way.

(See “Homosexuals Resort To (More) Threats of Violence,” http://www.genelalor.com/blog1/?p=745, for details and links to those efforts at intimidation.)

Undeterred by that defeat, and preceding it, homosexuals have also been resorting to liberal state courts as a remedy for their grievance against American society’s refusal to surrender a most basically-held moral and practical beliefs: Marriage = one man and one woman, no mix and match, no combos, no blends, no inanimate objects, no gerbils or any other members of the animal kingdom.

The moral feature is rooted in our adherence to our Judeo-Christian culture and tradition, the practical concern is that it has served our nation well and has served well our planet for eons in providing a certain stability and adherence to Natural Law.

Courts are, regrettably, free to rule otherwise-and Americans are free to reject those rulings pending appeal to higher federal courts, legislative repudiation of those Judeo-Christian mores, and a reversal of Natural Law.

All evidence points to an unending struggle with homosexual community activists who are not content either with the closet nor with current laws in the remaining 47 states which still reject sanctioning same sex marriages. It promises to be a long and vituperative battle.

The 7-member Iowa Supreme Court’s unanimous decision in favor of the Gay Lobby, seen celebrated here by gay Iowa legislators, strikes down that state’s same-sex marriage ban but does not change nature’s realities and cannot alter the views of the vast majority of Iowans.

The 69 page decision includes this opinion by Associate Justice Mark Cady: “We are firmly convinced that the exclusion of gay and lesbian people from the institution of civil marriage does not substantially further any important governmental objective. The legislature has excluded a historically disfavored class of persons from a supremely important civil institution without a constitutionally sufficient justification.” (http://www.desmoinesregister.com/article/20090403/NEWS/90403010)

Absent in that firm conviction is any reference to moral right and wrong and, obviously in our increasingly godless society and liberal courts, any reference to God’s opinion of rightness and wrongness.

Is not preservation of family an “important government objective?” Is not protection of society from the corruption of its sense of morality an “important government objective?” Are not child predators, murderers, polygamists, pornographers, et al. also “historically disfavored?”

Where is the precedent for this decision? As far as I know, agitation by groups such as gay rights group Lambda Legal and NAMBLA does not constitute precedent.

The case took more than three years to get to Iowa’s highest court which ruled on the matter with what some considered unseemly haste, as if it were chomping at the bit to legislate its radical social theories from its unelected bench. Iowa, a generally conservative state-except in the last election-now joins arch-liberal Massachusetts and Connecticut in sanctioning homosexual marriage.

Associate Justice Cady also wrote, “This approach does not disrespect or denigrate the religious views of many Iowans who may strongly believe in marriage as a dual-gender union, but considers, as we must, only the constitutional rights of all people, as expressed by the promise of equal protection for all.”

Oh, really? It doesn’t “disrespect or denigrate the religious views of many Iowans?” It’s tough to imagine any greater disrespect or denigration short of informing Iowans that you seven magistrates are the wizards behind Oz’s curtain setting them straight and offering to lead them out of their ignorance.

That introductory dialogue is a case in point on how dismally Americans and, principally, our youth grasp what’s in process in America.

In the event anyone is still unaware, in its continuing, tireless effort to subvert our young and make court decisions such as that in Iowa superfluous, homosexuals still plan to stage their Day of Silence in America’s schools on Friday, April 17th, a day of silence to afford them the opportunity to recruit our kids. Please see their plans here: http://www.genelalor.com/blog1/?p=931

What an ugly new world, what a twisted judicial system we have constructed for ourselves! Suzie would probably say, “This is all just stupid! Do we have to know this for a test?”

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